Big thank you to our guest blogger Jonita Dsouza
Jonita is an intuitive coach working for elevated female consciousness. She works with women to help them balance their masculine and feminine energies in order to live a purpose-driven life and also give back to the society.
There are plenty of articles and advice online talking about what to do to become confident. I am not here for that. I am here to tell you that this one bold act can make you feel confident in the way you live your life, make life’s decisions and even present yourself to the people around you. This is also one of the vital feminine principles that I assist women with in my business – Exploring Femininity .
Self doubt and self sabotage are the key reasons that can make you feel under confident. Think about it and be honest with yourself.. what do you feel is making you believe that you are not confident?
How can you change this belief pattern?
By taking the bold act of trusting yourself! Yes, you heard me right!! SELF-TRUST is the secret to achieving the level of confidence that will never leave you!
Compare the outcomes of those decisions and choices that you’ve made in your lives when you doubted yourself, listened to others’ opinion and ignored your gut feelings or let fear and your emotions confuse you. In the end you didn’t feel good anyways, isn’t it!
This is very important for women entrepreneurs like us! As we grow our business, there will always be several opportunities for us that will stretch us beyond our comfort zones. These are the moments when fear, self-doubt and under confidence can kick in and I want to rest assure you that it is pretty natural.
This is the reason that we should learn to intentionally practice building our SELF-TRUST muscle like any other business or life skill.
By not trusting ourselves we can foster unnecessary sufferings and wasted time.
When we begin to trust ourselves, we begin to feel more confident in making life’s decisions and even putting our self out there in the unknown. Things can still be tough, rough and challenging; however, at least we will not regret taking the risk. If you have taken the leap of faith in starting your own business then I am sure you know what I mean!
Although building this SELF-TRUST muscle is a constant practice, here are my 3 simple steps to begin with –
- ACCEPT that you feel under confident. Make a list of things that make you feel under confident.
- FORGIVE yourself! You always do the best that you can at any given moment even if it ends up in a mess. So forgive yourself for being harsh on yourself. I like to repeat the Hawaiian Ho’oponono Prayer.
- AFFIRM – always remind yourself of the self-trust that you are building in yourself. Keep your thoughts compassionate towards yourself. Afterall our thoughts creates our reality. I like using the below Feminine Womantra.
Let me leave you with my 2 personal secrets that allows me to feel confident in a given situation –
- I always tune in to my gut feelings every time I am in a confidence crossroads and not what my thoughts and beliefs are trying to persuade me with.
- I choose Love over Fear. Fear will always exist but when we invite Love in our hearts, the natural state of confidence automatically seeps in.
In closing I would like to say that you already have in you what you are longing for. You just have to start trusting yourself and you will reach this level of confidence that will never leave you.
You can find out more about me at http://jonitadsouza.com/